It's gotta be tough on a gal who maybe used to be able to see her man often and then his work takes off. Quality time, spent together, is obviously the language her heart speaks.
Not sure I agree with the Mom getting custody of the kid. Will she be able to teach a boy how to be a man? What it means to go to work every day and work long hours to support a family and employees? To some people, that is not a lot of pressure. To successful people it is huge.
When I hear on the news that "people who are sick should just stay home", that resonates a lot with lazy people. What about the parents that are living hand to mouth, not on salary. You miss a day, your kids don't eat for a day. Are you *that* sick?
Doug works hard and has made a great product but it took down his marriage. Divorce is one of the most corrosive things that can happen to a family. I don't know if the wife had a career of her own and couldn't work with him but I sure hope events and prayers can move their lives back together.
We don't have all the facts and info so I don't think any of us are in a place to point the finger at Doug or his wife. That's their business. What I gather from his post is a man caring enough about his customers to give an explanation as to his suffering customer service. He's taking steps to make it right and I think that's awesome.
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We don't have all the facts and info so I don't think any of us are in a place to point the finger at Doug or his wife. That's their business. What I gather from his post is a man caring enough about his customers to give an explanation as to his suffering customer service. He's taking steps to make it right and I think that's awesome.
+100 on that note. Doug's a stand up guy, I've had the pleasure of meeting him once when he came down to houston for a Dyno Day at Dynojoe performance to Dyno tune my car. On a side note I've seen this in my family somewhat where my parents work all day in and out and still have had to do the mom and dad roll at the house. Sure its nice to provide your family with a nice house, or yourself with a nice harley or truck, etc. but if you cant enjoy the things you provide for cause you work too much, whats the point ya know? IMO, theres a happy medium that is hard to find at times. But anyway, I think that was awesome what Doug did and it definitely shined the light on the issues and his business as a whole.
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after posting in this thread..... and reading further now.... i agree we don't have the facts and quite frankly its probably not our business.... so me included i think we probably shouldn't post about the how i think think his wife was wrong or someone else thinks she was right or whatever.... the point it he explained to his customers what was going on to cause the bad service.... and thats what a good business does when they do something wrong.... in this situation it just happens to be that the explanation was personal.
With that being said, in general ( this is my opinion in general not pertaining to Doug's situation)i think for a women to just and up and leave because her significant other is investing time into a business that provides for the family and their children because she's not getting "her attention time" is flat out selfish and wrong.... its not like the significant other is out there with his friends getting hammered at a bar or sitting in the middle of some lake fishing with a beer in hand.... he's busting his ball's working his rear-end off.... and for what... him and his family..... something to think about gtcrafty.....
Again I sincerely hope it works out for doug.... great guy to deal with.
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I can say that I myself have apologized to Bamachips for being a bit hard on Matt and calling him some choice adjectives. It takes a stand up guy to admit when he is wrong. The thing is to learn from it ,and not continue doing the same thing ,over and over. I have always had the utmost respect for Doug at Bamachips.He is a good person. I wonder if Matt not being there anymore has anything to do with it?
Dude Matt not being there has something to do with it.... you know the part where the guy Doug helps a guy out with his cobra and this guy takes off faster than split milk..... that is Matt..... he just up and took off on Doug after he helped him out!!!!
You were right about Matt after all Billy..... and you know what he posted somewhere.... that he and Doug have resolved there issues.... hah.... is still doesn't change the fact that he took off on Doug after using him for his help, his parts, and owed him money.... what a douche.
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"As I walk through the valley of rice, I shall fear no VTEC, for torque art though with me. Thy rod and thy piston, they comfort me"
With that being said, in general ( this is my opinion in general not pertaining to Doug's situation)i think for a women to just and up and leave because her significant other is investing time into a business that provides for the family and their children because she's not getting "her attention time" is flat out selfish and wrong.... its not like the significant other is out there with his friends getting hammered at a bar or sitting in the middle of some lake fishing with a beer in hand.... he's busting his ball's working his rear-end off.... and for what... him and his family..... something to think about gtcrafty.....
Again I sincerely hope it works out for doug.... great guy to deal with.
Again, I'm not one to really comment on the matter between him and his wife, but I think it's ridiculous for a group of people to be laying into her just because she didn't appreciate the way her husband tunes our cars.
Bringing home the bacon may make you a good provider, but that alone does not make you a good husband OR father. I've seen a lot of my friends go through this recently and it's just a matter of time if either spouse puts their own dreams and career ahead of their family's well-being.
There comes a time to turn off the dyno, put away the tools, and get home for dinner. If you can't do that, any red-blooded woman is going to find someone who can. Priorities.
Again, I'm not one to really comment on the matter between him and his wife, but I think it's ridiculous for a group of people to be laying into her just because she didn't appreciate the way her husband tunes our cars.
Bringing home the bacon may make you a good provider, but that alone does not make you a good husband OR father. I've seen a lot of my friends go through this recently and it's just a matter of time if either spouse puts their own dreams and career ahead of their family's well-being.
There comes a time to turn off the dyno, put away the tools, and get home for dinner. If you can't do that, any red-blooded woman is going to find someone who can. Priorities.
you clearly haven't seen the "dark" side of life.... believe me.... and dont tell me you have.... based on your opinion i can 100% say you haven't.... which im not wishing you should have..... no one should have to... im glad you haven't....
but i know i have seen it and my perspective will be vastly different than yours.... which is fine.
but the one thing i outright disagree with you is that you think "any red blooded woman is going to find someone who can (give her the time and leave if you dont)" .... that women(or man) i can guarantee will never have a successful long-term relationship if thats what she seeks.... divorce #2 awaits her followed by #3..... there are good times and bad times.... and in those bad times.... patience is virtue (Even if it takes years).... ive seen it all too many times in my young life.... which i think is my unfortune.... with that said this is a mustang forum.... i shall not speak of such matters on here any further!
no hard feelings gtcrafty.
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"As I walk through the valley of rice, I shall fear no VTEC, for torque art though with me. Thy rod and thy piston, they comfort me"
Dude Matt not being there has something to do with it.... you know the part where the guy Doug helps a guy out with his cobra and this guy takes off faster than split milk..... that is Matt..... he just up and took off on Doug after he helped him out!!!!
You were right about Matt after all Billy..... and you know what he posted somewhere.... that he and Doug have resolved there issues.... hah.... is still doesn't change the fact that he took off on Doug after using him for his help, his parts, and owed him money.... what a douche.
Yea I never liked that guy. Yea I called him a douche on the other forum. I really do not like that forum much to be honest with you. The classifieds are about the only thing I like. There are a few cool guys over there. This forum is way better any day. I know people , I work with them every day,it helps me be a good judge of character. That guy had no good ,to his character.
Takes a big man not to pull the trigger on something like that. Loyalty now days has gone out the window, moral of the story is if you find a good woman ;keep her and treat her as good as you can. This is hard to do sometimes when we have pressure to make money. Just keep in focus it does require giving by both parties. Relationships are the hardest things to keep working. Why because it takes work,and commitment. At the end of the day, me and my wife count are blessings. We are healthy, and out kids are healthy. A problem is something you can not fix. Remember this,when things get tough financially.
I am praying for Doug , I have been there where he is and it is the worst. With a kid involved it is so hard. I pray for you AND your family Doug Stoddard. May God give you strength.
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Yea I never liked that guy. Yea I called him a douche on the other forum. I really do not like that forum much to be honest with you. The classifieds are about the only thing I like. There are a few cool guys over there. This forum is way better any day. I know people , I work with them every day,it helps me be a good judge of character. That guy had no good ,to his character.
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yah man..... Matt turned out to be a doozie after all.... i obviously was in full agreement with you but didn't wanna say anything more just cuz the facts were not so clear at the time.... meh, sh*t happens.... we all move on.
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"As I walk through the valley of rice, I shall fear no VTEC, for torque art though with me. Thy rod and thy piston, they comfort me"
Unfortunately, these days - just saying "My personal life is in shambles" isn't enough... we expect explanations... and sadly Doug and his family are going through one hell of a time. My thoughts and prayers go out to all involved - because divorce is never an easy decision and it is usually a team effort - sadly.
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People in general - both men and women - can be way too quick to bail on a marriage these days. We all know the statistic that half of all marriages end in divorce, so getting divorced seems just as normal as staying married. All it takes for someone to throw in the towel is for them to be unhappy about something and think there is something or someone better for them out there. Most of the time there isn't, but by then it's too late.
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his wife was too selfish and threw in the towel. People who get their nose out of joint just because they don't get their attention. I remember someone like that, my evil ex. and i call her evil for a reason, if she wasn't the center of my attention, she darn well made me feel like poop for a prolonged period of time for it.
He is working his butt off so he can provide a good home for his family. He works 12+ hours a day because he LOVES THEM. if she couldn't see that, she needs her eyes checked
his wife was too selfish and threw in the towel. People who get their nose out of joint just because they don't get their attention. I remember someone like that, my evil ex. and i call her evil for a reason, if she wasn't the center of my attention, she darn well made me feel like poop for a prolonged period of time for it.
He is working his butt off so he can provide a good home for his family. He works 12+ hours a day because he LOVES THEM. if she couldn't see that, she needs her eyes checked
Sorry you were in a mentally abusive relationship, James - they're not healthy for anyone....
But there are always three sides to every story:
His Side
Her Side
and The Truth
Seriously peeps!! It's really unfair to put the full blame on her - she's not even here to defend herself... and you're getting a scorned man's side of the story. Not exactly fair, is it?
Can't we just say we wish him well and much happiness???
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