It is possible that you have defective clearcoat, and an independent body shop as well as your dealer are probably the best places to get an opinon about that.
However, there are a few very simple steps that will go a long way toward minimizing the wear on the paint and maximizing its stock appearance.
1. Purchas a clay bar and completely rub your car down to remove all of the existing pollution and fallout on the surface of your car's paint (after washing the car). Trust me, it works. I did it to my car the day I got it home from the dealership, and the clay bar removed a visible amount of junk that had become trapped on the surface of the paint, despite it being washed upon delivery.
2. Wax your car with a non abrasive wax. Not a cleaner wax, just a carnuba or finishing wax offered by company like Meguiars, Mother's, etc. None of the quick wax stuff. WAX BY HAND.
3. Purchase a good car cover. This alone will make the biggest improvement. It will not only keep many harmful deposits off of your paint but also make your car easier to maintain. You will not need to wax or clay bar as often if you keep the car covered.
4. Stop using the orbital buffer. You are slowly removing clearcoat from your paint. Over a long enough period of time, you could potentially remove enough clearcoat to get to the base coat. Then your car really would have a serious finish problem that would require costly repair. Your car is too new to need abrasive orbital buffeting. Even if you have an orbital buffer, just spend an extra hour and wax by hand. That way, you will run no risk of "burning" the paint. Part of the reason that hte stains could be getting harder and harder to remove is that you have buffed out enough clear coat to create large pits with a very thin clear coat, creating a noticeable contrast in the car's finish.
Hope this helps.