I just googled the whole pats issue, and on another forum some guys went through the same thing, one guy did a motor swap, another guy switched heads, and it was a 10amp fuse 3rd from the top.
Looking at one of the images I found for the fuse box relay it could be Ign SW, Fuel pump, or CN illum. Frankly it could be the first 2, so just to eliminate that possibility I'm going to replace all of the fuses or primarily the ones having an effect with the car starting.
Also when we did plug in the obd2, it came with 0 codes or 0 errors.
I'm a little bit more optimistic about the car starting this weekend, but I always have the opposite result, so I'll just keep thinking that this car is not going to start.