You should have mentioned that it was shifting hard when you took it in for a rebuild. That gives them an opportunity to fix it.
Water under the bridge now.
as for the hard 1 - 2 shift There is an accumulator valve in the transmissions valve body that can be adjusted with different springs or shims. There is also a small rubber disc that is commonly left out to improve the shift (or forgotten). You can install a missing disc to slow the shift down. You are asking me to "undo" the things I normally do to make a C4 shift firmly.
Just so you know a harsh shift is not a bad thing as long as it happens at a low enough speed. My street C4s typically shift 1-2-3 before you cross an standard intersection with light throttle. On the other hand if you have you foot buried in the carpet it will spin the tires on the 1-2 shift at about 40 mph. The 2-3 full throttle shift will typically chirp the tires on dry pavement at 55 to 65 mph. This from a C4 that is built for street use at a cost of about $750 - $760.
The fast shifts, when they happen early, is easier on the transmission and on your fuel mileage. The performance is built in for those times when you need (want) it.